Self Esteem Bible: Build Your Confidence Day by Day
Gael Lindenfield
Learn the secrets of self-esteem with 365 tips from the UK’s number one confidence expert Gael Lindenfield. Dip into this comprehensive self-help handbook as and when you need it or use it as a personal development plan. Includes advice on social life, work issues, relationships and much more.Poor self-esteem can sabotage relationships and careers, cause self-destructive behaviour and hold us back from achieving our true potential.In this comprehensive guide, self-esteem expert Gael Lindenfield gives you all the advice you need for building confidence in yourself and your abilities.Designed to be dipped into as and when you need a confidence-boost, or followed as a personal development programme, this is a highly practical self-help handbook that will give you concrete results.Includes sections on work, social life, relationships, health and personal development, so you will regain self-esteem by making new friends, getting over past hurts, boosting assertiveness, learning how to deal with difficult people and situations, think positively and get motivated to achieve your dreams.With tips for both the short- and long-term, this book provides ways to boost your self-esteem immediately – and then reveals how to stay self-confident for life!
gael lindenfield
self esteembible build your confidence day by day
365 tips from the UK’s no. 1 confidence expert
Dedication (#u3c2e2277-30a4-5f7e-a1c9-e72348c3123a)
Dedicated in love and admiration to Mari Macauley
Who has triumphed over innumerable internal and external challenges to her self-esteem and is now dedicated to helping others do the same
Contents
Cover (#uabb3ea7e-fb7c-5ff0-8ca7-1a2504460f2c)
Title Page (#u2e8ab414-c32e-59ba-a8d5-197809a9cf2f)
Dedication (#ue4988bf2-074a-54d9-863a-46065f94340d)
Introduction (#u3e65f574-7e5a-5132-8445-65ee71d11bc5)
Part 1 – Health (#u0ecb5ed1-17e0-51db-8168-79a3a1ace3a8)
1 Transform Your Home into a Health Farm for a Weekend (#u4b028dc8-ee27-5762-8ecc-9111bf6f6936)
2 Beat the exercise excuses (#u81da12a7-b7d5-55dc-89cc-2f3468d30af8)
3 Take De-stressing Action Before You Become Stressed (#ub0053913-2332-5abf-a8c0-f62f01e0eaa8)
4 Use Meditation to Clear Your Mind at Least Once a Day (#u2090d4d4-f00b-5f31-bea2-dbbf72fdbf10)
5 Cut Down Your Intake of Stimulants and Depressants (#uf4452ae7-e09a-5e7c-a450-721b1fa87bb5)
6 Aim for Quality Sleep, not Just the Proverbial Eight Hours (#u6fdaee85-5b02-5f4a-96ba-3661e2440489)
7 Clear Your Kitchen of Temptation (#u2fbd1648-6331-56d8-b5d4-30ac8a3d7a63)
8 Get Marching! (#u9a228615-eb98-5cdc-b379-f064868730a6)
9 Prescribe Yourself More Fun (#u28d5d2d5-3648-5ae7-8eff-334882621821)
10 Buy or Pick Yourself Fresh Flowers Once a Week (#ud6914212-9b25-5efe-9505-220710615511)
11 Get Dancing! (#u23499565-7e74-5f46-8c43-66c8181284bb)
12 Timetable 45 Minutes of Deep Relaxation into Every Week (#udfdd9d9b-8df8-50b6-9595-6a25eb3c5a25)
13 Release Pent-up Emotions (#u333107b4-16bd-5fed-ad21-12539d6c5f19)
14 Have a Professional Health Check (#u0e83932b-e226-5606-891b-1f63474d925a)
15 Don’t Skip Your Dental Check-ups (#u887f4f63-23c4-56c9-95ff-f492b32e2b4f)
16 Give Yourself a Fitness Lifestyle Check Once a Month (#u9dc6424a-9271-5ee6-bde4-0819da46789a)
17 Watch More Comedy (#ud8a2139c-4f76-5e5b-b381-200d603c730f)
18 Keep Up-to-date With Health Research (#ucbd81ad1-9383-5aae-8b7f-59bb6b8ca57b)
19 Go Green With Your Own Energy (#u0f276416-d87e-53c0-afa5-05cbdb731004)
20 Identify your body’s stress warning sign (#u4bcb6e55-d5ec-5c7c-b4d3-0301121c4414)
21 Know How Your Behaviour Changes Under Stress (#u52cb0ee9-00bf-5453-8cae-8665efdb83f0)
22 Know Your Emotional Stress Warning Signs (#ue732960e-c54f-5b7d-a344-42b445b5ea99)
23 Cut down rather than Cut Out During Times of Pressure (#ub3ff665c-290a-5d6b-8c64-f9e2b7ee5631)
24 Don’t Sit Still for More Than an Hour (#uee6e946c-5b68-5ac9-bef5-198df559d3f8)
25 Respect Your Own Biorhythms (#u58bfb553-87f7-525d-8eac-62765fdef961)
26 Go Easy on Yourself in Times of Change (#u74241bfe-9157-58cf-9a27-5a72b79ceb60)
27 Avoid Overdosing on Media Models of Perfection (#uf275769b-969f-5e55-b6a6-7c5c633adf19)
28 Find quick-fix relaxation techniques that work for you (#u474c1c09-3738-53d1-bf09-e67dfbf519db)
29 Rebalance Your Energy Levels Regularly (#u6f619195-a9a3-5a0a-bc4b-1c6945c7aac6)
30 Build Your Inner Strength (#u330e3646-9203-5ee4-a616-88258400061d)
31 Watch Yourself in Supermarkets (#uadae5e23-dca1-51ef-948f-7a97fef0d785)
32 Give Yourself a Health Warning When You Get Irritated (#u76cb877e-cbf5-5947-9837-02d565ce8fc7)
33 Be kind to yourself when you have reason to be sad (#ufd314686-5869-55b5-88a9-4c6970cba625)
34 Use Your Imagination to Take Yourself on a Mini-break (#u7062c31d-e8bd-5305-b15c-e470544b8d61)
35 Supplement Your Diet at Times of Pressure (#uea9684a2-7167-5fd9-884a-c8c7f8772c28)
36 Replace Gloomy Predictions with Motivational Statements (#u66de7b16-4113-5753-90d5-e0a2ce1db318)
37 Get in a Sweat Three Times a Week (#u25f1ae4d-98e1-5ad9-a57b-911df101b4e4)
38 Don’t Ignore Everyday Encounters With Hassle (#uc51d072d-7828-5d76-98d8-4b8b8c759bca)
39 Chemical calmers can’t change your life (#ufaf7c9c0-bd5a-55dd-a377-e1baa76f3d34)
40 Stick to Your Bedtime Hour (#u15a55030-cd59-570f-a17f-c5f86ea83aa0)
41 Watch What You Eat at Night (#u974d056f-12fa-502f-9225-caa14c6571ba)
42 Keep a Worry-pad by Your Bed (#ud9c7fe22-c35e-557f-a7de-e7a499d9a376)
43 Get to Know Your Genes (#u5587a15f-8035-5caf-a0be-d8c8ca6a0824)
44 Clean Up the Air Around You (#u046fd111-cc2a-544d-bd5c-f32fe0db46ac)
45 Ensure that Your Furniture and Equipment is Taking Care of You (#u46884d97-68f9-5e22-8972-8c9d0063c57f)
46 Test Out Alternative Therapies and Trust the Ones That Work for You (#u385b7ae7-0526-5522-afca-7c0e6e7abce2)
47 Keep a List of Favourite Re-energizing Activities (#ufe956ff4-e7fe-57b4-97b7-9086600a30ba)
48 Beware of Treats With a Health Sting in Their Tail (#u9388ea17-a34a-5693-842a-ff238781ca17)
Part 2 – Personal Development (#u0ea6516a-26e2-5e28-a5af-278c081e7134)
49 Don’t Stay too Serious (#u29b5dcab-04c0-5050-b285-12cbb656f41d)
50 View Your Life as a Biographer (#u21e1f3d5-17fc-530c-88bb-bdf84fc3aa5e)
51 Always Have at Least One Treat to Look Forward to (#uf4945a0a-fd29-5c30-ac48-76335d4820c6)
52 Give Your Home a Major Clear-out (#u6cb8391e-f016-58ea-ab8c-b8ed53935ea0)
53 Take Up a New Hobby (#u4374e4a6-4f6c-5359-a7c3-1019ace77199)
54 Set Goal After Goal (#u82f37002-5749-5373-aaf1-8d713032e07b)
55 If You are Unhappy, Give Something Up (#u3dc9af48-edd4-597a-906e-3bf7b0f4f9b6)
56 Timetable Self-reflection into Your Schedule (#u401c5f79-b65a-50a7-a73a-b78fe5305d19)
57 Use Strangers’ Eyes to Watch Yourself (#u3e2b9f87-7cd0-5f56-a383-874b816e966a)
58 Keep Your Senses Stimulated (#ud570717f-eb1e-5a61-9177-b762b82ee7d3)
59 By Being Kind to Yourself, You also Open Doors (#ud6081645-f881-5cff-b855-a662a15f9723)
60 Rediscover the Joy and Satisfaction of Creativity (#u804d79cb-375e-57d4-81db-7e3fb02eb463)
61 Visualize your life dream (#uf6b8fd99-578f-5ce4-8477-eef4d523671b)
62 Talk about Your Dream (#u13ca0a64-480e-5364-a3c8-c5df2746a295)
63 Steer Clear of the ‘Deep End’ of Challenges (#u45abedd6-3208-539b-86f3-450f249e6ca3)
64 Don’t Wait Until You are Feeling Ugly to Enhance Your Beauty (#u38f7747a-ce78-5e86-9595-8086aced89f4)
65 Keep Stretching the Strengths of Your Intellect (#u9000eb25-f74e-5c87-9e06-48f095dde51c)
66 Turn the Clock Forward to Check You are on Track (#uc2895f0b-2fa8-5a70-9b40-5707dea2775b)
67 Know What Lifts Your Spirits – and Do More of it! (#ub21167be-7b9b-55d3-a948-de29659ddda2)
68 Keep Humour Handy (#uc1044210-9dff-5429-a8b4-cc00ed5cfd03)
69 Use Your Heroes’ Wisdom to Inspire You (#u22a3465c-29b2-528e-b821-14e403aea4e7)
70 Secretly Record Compliments that Move You (#u22570788-ffd1-5dad-831f-480de4d00284)
71 Try, Try and Try Again (#u2a10e386-0275-50a1-8e70-6df2cf159b34)
72 Give to Others and Feel Connected (#u8bcfd66a-8ef2-5efd-8e09-9a0c6bbf5bb1)
73 Don’t Over-commit Your Caring Side (#u5bb26afc-4c3a-506d-9496-61b54515ee62)
74 Monitor Your Self-loving (#u4e596f9a-b1f3-58fc-92c6-9e22b67cdbed)
75 Talk Encouragingly to Yourself (#ud724861c-5ec6-568b-98a6-3b7496bab890)
76 Do a Dare a Day! (#u0e55e85a-a964-53bb-9e02-852243ac6b13)
77 Formally Forgive Yourself for Bad Decisions (#u8fba53ae-95fe-5521-af83-0f8c2cd46f74)
78 Convert Today’s Regrets into Tomorrow’s Goals (#ub474e397-c407-560f-b042-abb5c2bec820)
79 Stay Face-to-face With Your Values (#u028ff172-95c5-5f65-b02f-3ce2817a2b18)
80 Visualize All Options Before Making a Choice (#u9c0c81ae-788c-5045-b29e-30bdf52e6d70)
81 Start a Savings Plan for ‘Rainy Day’ Treats (#u1a7e9828-aae4-5520-aa68-5b89038a2b7f)
82 Read Inspirational Life Stories (#ufe21b2b8-5d71-59ef-a0a9-bb1bd925eb8a)
83 Buy Yourself a Small Book of Motivational Quotes (#u76abd76e-7931-552e-ac5a-b711327c0271)
84 Keep Your ‘Change Muscles’ Exercised (#u69d47861-470a-5f55-ace7-90ac0b994a0f)
85 Set Yourself Conversation Homework (#ud0ba78fb-4932-5132-adff-56b6d2646a25)
86 Write out your life dreams in the present tense (#ude43c117-619e-59bb-aa97-60e0bdd1048c)
87 Battle With Your Bad Habits, One at a Time (#u2577e7af-800c-5363-937c-d931bcfe36cd)
88 Use Your Personal Strengths to Overcome Bad Habits (#u3a67be8b-e3db-5512-84d0-356aafea490b)
89 Formulate Strategies to Break Bad Habits (#u82bc8510-84b5-54c3-9513-4e1d3536f9c3)
90 Commit Your Plans to Paper (#u82b20012-4b6c-55e2-abd8-2a17d0d8f7df)
91 Share Your Good Intentions With a Supportive Friend (#u4e2f9c0c-35dc-5c1d-8ebd-3b01b1b40459)
92 Carry a Symbolic Reminder (#uf68bfc58-0b48-5a89-898f-91d8f44cfc89)
93 Celebrate Overcoming a Bad Habit in Style (#u6819162f-78a9-5f28-b265-83b4f050cd1b)
94 Make Public Announcements When You Kill a Bad Habit (#uc798884c-9dea-5bbc-821c-af58cc65e8f3)
95 Be on Guard for Your Habit’s Early Warning Signals (#u35abed90-5a2b-5c5e-8d1b-474769f1d782)
96 Use Affirmations (#u90cab6b7-45f1-5baf-a640-6a253bb4966d)
97 Don’t Over-conform (#u9456057f-2310-52c3-823e-16815d6c664e)
98 ‘Anchor’ Your Good Feelings in Your Body (#ud8b3cdeb-b65c-51f1-abb6-106943b485b2)
99 Think of Yourself as a Product for Sale (#ue8af2a61-918d-58bc-9bbc-d9d4e615f9fe)
100 Exercise One of Your Strengths Each Day (#u8e4a6efb-bf16-50f4-9de6-898e0d4d36f5)
101 Talk about Times When You Felt Good about Yourself (#uc3270c92-ccbc-533b-8882-a1ab2de2077e)
102 Start having an ‘Affirmation of the Week’ (#u421dc2b5-7c8e-532b-9552-824c453f232d)
103 Don’t Deny Your Weaknesses to Yourself (#u933f9476-bfb4-5443-928f-eefdaea12c1d)
104 Pause the moment a guilt button is pushed (#u441a9b87-9839-54c8-b78b-1c7ebd6c7f3f)
105 Don’t Unnecessarily Highlight Your Weaknesses to Others (#u5373e11e-2f32-56cd-b4ed-390d9acf9bcb)
106 Don’t Compare Yourself Unfavourably to Others (#ubfa02299-8347-5753-8970-82b32d42d11c)
107 Classify Your Weaknesses (#u0b600e2d-7fd5-5dac-ad66-3edacca31068)
108 Look for the Positive Aspects in Your Weaknesses (#ud7af6dd3-5736-59a7-882f-4742ebf72a94)
109 Make a Resolution if you Start Wishing you Were Different (#ueaf82701-8caa-5508-9cc2-42ef4f33c4f7)
110 Stop Exaggerations of Your Faults with Reality Checks (#u661e90ea-3c67-522d-9877-24ee67721027)
111 Don’t be Afraid of Mistakes (#uc727d0ac-9c26-50e9-aaeb-993526dab921)
112 Acknowledge the Positive in Every Mistake (#u8b733867-40d1-55db-826c-08c138741ba9)
113 Acknowledge the Things You do Better than Other People (#u18277068-10c8-53ef-869e-b4ca93e45708)
114 Notice Your Small Kindnesses to Others (#u51ce9037-3ec2-5e57-b623-d8aef3cd1a61)
115 Deal With the Fear and do it Anyway (#ue8be243f-bb8a-5261-83d8-816fee727c9d)
116 Take More Initiative (#u7f22e94b-53f4-5bff-ac93-ff84dace9a32)
117 Like Celebrities, Transform Your Appearance Regularly (#u6d3bfcde-b30d-57c0-8b35-9a18e3af9ca4)
118 Think Big While Getting on With the Small (#u458691e8-f8f1-58ca-b1e3-f492dfbcab9a)
119 Imagine that You Have Only Three Weeks to Live (#u048df7a2-3f28-5025-ab79-4014ba87ec0b)
120 Check You Give Your Needs Appropriate Attention (#u8c83418e-6fb1-513f-82f7-906f2d5aecb5)
121 Start Each Day by Feeding Your Mind with Positive Food (#u421b1181-186b-5d8e-a2eb-575a0eec8029)
122 Keep Yourself Well Informed about Current Facts and Trends (#u040def22-c484-5620-80a3-20e21644949f)
123 Value Your Simple Successes (#u7589c5d9-e311-565f-a36d-9953816caec5)
124 Count the Cost of Wasting Today (#ufe564c18-78a9-505c-a171-d0a710ee798e)
125 Listen to Your Intuition, but Check it Out Too (#u254ea8e9-a76d-5035-8ddb-ef3c9534f499)
126 Develop Your Intuitive Powers (#u11e18fac-3ead-5031-b49c-71cf6ff4db08)
127 Analyse Your Hunches (#ua71b362e-b191-50ba-8118-206f31c4a6ec)
128 Keep The Serenity Prayer in a Handy Place (#u1827155f-1cb3-59ec-84eb-552d4676a717)
129 Don’t be too Proud to Fix Other People’s Messes (#ub06bd398-31e0-5068-a584-3212e5c15ece)
130 Give Your Perfectionism a Constructive Outlet (#u11a80f79-05c7-5573-94de-a613bdd419d1)
131 Take Responsibility Readily and Willingly (#ucdcfdc68-3919-51a6-bfb2-ce34fd11ce04)
132 Watch and Listen to Your Concentration (#uec6c9e1c-993b-500d-b6c0-6cd2b17e80ab)
133 Make a Daily ‘To Do’ List and Monitor Your Results (#uea525f87-8267-5b4f-801b-88b7e74a6eb1)
134 Let Yourself be Disorganized Sometimes (#u274ac587-dfdd-507a-87e5-6d3c32b95785)
135 Don’t Expect Decisions to Make Themselves Magically (#u5adcb25f-50b3-5eec-a0a6-a2e6d44e9029)
136 Wait Until You are Calm Before Making a Decision (#u58f91fa0-18ec-5693-8b39-484a9ea17dc7)
137 Learn a Strategy for Making Decisions (#u3093a22a-9d6c-5bef-a0f0-42ff5ddc7497)
138 Reclaim the Forgotten You (#ubb0df45c-f836-5ea8-afc8-f3845e67ccc4)
139 Remember Your Sins Could Make a Saint of You (#ubc3d5c0f-f2ca-539d-8237-b00f62993015)
140 View Yourself as a Team (#ub41565e9-aa21-5463-8087-17f5a96045be)
141 Write an Advert for Your Inner Team (#ud840976c-945d-57d4-9d9a-5d681f6692e5)
142 Visualize Your Inner Team Working Successfully Together (#u004753c6-4171-55d5-b527-f88ff1b22c7e)
143 Use Past Bad Decisions to Help You Now (#ucfa3b40e-f4a6-53bf-815d-9de9ab105eac)
144 Regularly Review Your Values (#ud7baf177-aa13-58ac-a126-94f051680d38)
145 Have More Adventures (#u6f3dd7d8-0992-50a3-a51c-6620af48692c)
146 Don’t Appear to be What You are not (#u3652b654-a222-5a7c-ba34-7abfeb396660)
147 Keep Yourself Well Groomed (#uf42dffa1-38c8-50e7-a441-808ca7cea171)
148 Challenge Your Perceptions (#ue941c65a-3e04-529c-a81d-efba5b41df48)
149 Limit Yourself to One Risk at Any One Time (#ub3286261-1152-51fd-9186-70a4214ab778)
150 Reward Every Risk However Small (#u687d74d1-3abc-51c1-bdc9-275ee0b1fd34)
151 Give Your Left Brain Regular Rests (#u3c52eb19-76e3-50d6-b41e-af6dd50c5f8f)
152 Prepare for Tomorrow (#ubebaa116-b805-594e-b8a6-b3766b628500)
153 View Your Life as a Movie (#uccfa59b5-3cab-57ff-88fc-c41daa63d16a)
154 Remember it is not All Your Fault (#ubd482fbe-18a1-56f0-aabc-51bc1bab8be7)
155 Don’t Hold Back Your Opinions (#ufb311379-e51b-5bec-89b4-81801981b14b)
156 Calm Yourself Before You Talk (#u98364fd3-542c-5bbe-9d3f-19ef219cc911)
157 Script Your Speech Before You Say Something Important (#u84708653-89cf-5a48-aac8-dfd2e9ab93a0)
158 Challenge Your Own Rationalizations (#ucb469d16-3938-5b9f-ad04-e9229b0bfb20)
159 Learn for Learning’s Sake (#ud733a868-8dcd-5885-9c4f-0705512971ba)
160 Renew your New Year Resolutions Three Times a Year (#u6f4bfc47-df33-59df-81d7-dc3fe15ff012)
161 Surround Yourself With Stimulation (#u1ff73a4e-ddfd-5da4-8bbc-3d0ca6398e1f)
162 Trust Yourself to Know When You are Happy (#u8afc6740-1cbd-5242-90c8-aaff10d5f698)
163 Get Comfortable With Solitude (#u9f6d3d2f-ef69-5277-8691-73fa59c106a2)
164 Keep a ‘Good Ideas’ Notebook (#uc3c87520-0696-5cef-80d8-3b4f730f22b0)
165 Defeat is a Perception not a Fact (#u1b50c159-aa77-5879-a8bd-f8e761c89c26)
166 Reward Your Every Effort (#ua0ac0341-ae91-5f3c-b9d8-9bb64f69dd24)
167 Give Yourself the Holidays You Deserve (#u0f866242-3e4a-58eb-b1d0-3caab8c40f60)
168 Remember You are Defeating Yourself by not Trying (#uea0a9a26-fc74-5862-9376-73d267680779)
169 Celebrate the Uncelebrated (#uc95041b5-34c2-5820-bd54-9356f0e0cf54)
170 Give Yourself a Diversion Day Once in a While (#ucd563cc2-63bf-55fc-812e-7806d3818140)
171 Get to Know Yourself so You Can Get to Know Others Better (#uc141bdc4-4913-5e0a-88ca-28a5d54ef37c)
172 Distinguish the Hard from the Impossible (#ub33e1b83-2321-5053-b421-f93560e1fb1f)
173 Know Who Knows 95% of the Real You (#u55244c50-d72d-5571-82ee-0eb4b08d1418)
174 Acknowledge the Power of Your Emotional Wounds (#u9cbb845a-ed27-5c02-9169-a784b20f435c)
175 Keep a Very Private Diary (#u4ca4bb7d-c293-5eb9-9857-f2e0768926e6)
176 Never Confuse Self-esteem With Arrogance (#u12c91b2a-bf83-5ac3-961d-7c201431d1a9)
177 Exercise Your Right Brain Regularly (#ua1cb7498-8159-5407-8112-51eb9e47bb75)
178 Use Your Dreams to Understand Your Needs (#u0aa99da8-bdba-5485-8e15-49aa056964af)
179 Write and Recite Your Own Credo (#u0ba988b1-a4d1-5e6e-986f-827666de8e7a)
180 Own Your Fears (#u62c706ce-7759-571f-b4c0-a4dc4e4df087)
181 Identify the Root Triggers to Your Persistent Fears (#ub995c6b7-3b55-5463-8612-27cc5ecfcb4b)
182 Write a New Set of Ten Commandments (#u0f45792c-c614-5922-a589-b958fecbb67d)
183 Treat Each Minor Loss as a Mini-bereavement (#ud670cf08-f89c-5591-8fe2-4263095045f7)
184 Let Others Help You Through Your Losses (#u660a044a-43b1-5c49-b59b-5ac8e02c822c)
185 Deal Openly With Jealousy (#ud70d4e41-006c-57fb-b5d1-95c0e62a12f5)
186 Don’t Shop Till You Drop (#u7acb1797-09ba-5a78-a849-eb8e3a17d754)
187 Say ‘No’ Simply, Firmly and Directly (#ud5d95ad1-5d1a-5b33-8789-c14b0da62c3f)
188 Save for the Leisure and Pleasure you Deserve (#u84be9a83-118b-5c98-97ed-32da9fea698f)
189 Treat Problems Like Jigsaws (#u628e0a53-59c4-5ae4-bf9e-3803e073111b)
190 Take Regular Breaks When Problem-solving (#u6f6e2e7a-6332-5991-83a1-f1186916792b)
191 Make a Contribution to The World (#uefe0bee2-83f3-5af6-8c5a-524d3bc6687b)
192 Think Before Delegating Your Difficulties (#uc1bb70d6-dd24-50a4-841c-0af9320b6e48)
193 Watch Out for Double Standards (#u509eb9b4-acb6-58e2-914e-188cc7d732e2)
Part 3 – Relationships (#ua46d51a7-4a63-57ad-9a77-ab2175b0dfd4)
194 Accept that to Love is to Risk (#ud16c0c9b-68a5-50b4-baff-e4bc90632222)
195 Think Before You Question (#u4744c55c-c60a-5ede-af9f-14a153a369f6)
196 Deepen Your Special Relationships (#u66d77554-1ed5-54c9-b831-4393ab36d7de)
197 Review Your Relationships Regularly (#uf6b828f1-b580-5196-9e9d-c89eb4a31c4e)
198 Agree With the Truth in Criticisms (#u33dec38f-2782-5cf8-9dbd-d83bcaad5634)
199 Avoid Giving Unnecessary Justifications (#uba4ed6c9-4d0c-589e-ae46-d61eb3c40a0c)
200 Don’t Give Yourself a Put-down in Response to a Justified Criticism (#u9b393290-0ecf-57da-8650-81449bacf44d)
201 Don’t Forgive Before Trying to Get Even (#ue920f825-63d0-5e7f-85dc-d4b702202f78)
202 Spend More Time With Young Children (#uf48c2b08-6d6f-5f20-b871-6877b8c7dca1)
203 Release Your Tension Before a Confrontation (#u3bd2c13b-77b4-5631-94e5-ea02063745d1)
204 Worry Less about What Insignificant Others Think (#u4f8bd0f7-ed81-573c-864a-5cf5fcd56329)
205 Deal With Mini-frustrations Promptly (#u933c21e9-c6a8-5b56-a112-26b2ffe1c3b1)
206 Test the Depth of Your Relationships With Your Faults (#uf209949f-cc8d-502c-acd3-1a9dc043da62)
207 Use Friends With a Sense of Humour to Keep Perspective (#u2261daa4-f6ae-5cc8-a15a-7ecfb0557345)
208 Don’t be Afraid of Looking Back After a Rejection (#u4219b2c9-6953-5d40-9d5f-f5c859da7623)
209 Express Your Feelings After a Rejection (#u56797712-e501-510b-8eaf-62f5da5dab26)
210 Keep the End You Want in Sight (#ub78e010f-af4a-5f6b-94d2-09455cdbf63b)
211 Let Yourself be Comforted by Others After a Rejection (#u4b473756-203a-564d-944b-6729d9668de6)
212 Compensate Yourself After a Break-up (#u2cd10945-b1dd-5d13-8d2c-528d0666f97e)
213 Help Yourself Gain a New Perspective After a Rejection (#ueb09f47e-d8cf-5120-a862-15caa7114654)
214 Build Your Self-reliance After a Break-up (#uaeeffcb2-c80e-51bb-801d-c4e9fc499cd9)
215 Empower Others to Reveal Their Preferences (#ucc465013-d07f-54f0-82fb-be1d9fdd76d5)
216 Feel so that You Can Heal (#u44455e80-7f4a-53b8-a0fe-103adbb85a53)
217 Make Sure that Your Positive Friends Outnumber the Moaners (#u1f80b64f-471a-501a-9983-4cd1b07acd21)
218 Know What You Expect from a Friendship Before You Foster it (#ue0513ecc-cac3-5174-8164-b33023fe1079)
219 If You Want Fun, Choose Fun Friends (#u14cfaaf7-67bb-59d8-8997-9ff0192a9d0f)
220 Start New Friendships on a Positive Note (#u8b5e32b6-716c-569b-b0ab-fe4f425b1752)
221 Improve Your Listening Skills (#u4ee952f6-a0e1-5b71-8fbc-fb635499959b)
222 Be Fun to Be With (#u2d81c36d-4712-525d-97a7-e2b0494fe8ec)
223 Keep a Balance in Your Social Life (#u639c9f59-a64a-59e1-a434-d78d9600a22a)
224 Don’t Credit Luck With Your Successes (#u1dc784d1-0c71-526a-b9ca-e5b28af3f72d)
225 Repeat to Persist (#u76cc237e-81d2-54ba-8839-29d24f4fc25c)
226 Practise Responding to Criticism (#u0c9fc3a0-d458-5261-b192-38794eb6fbdd)
227 Be More Generous With Your Compliments (#u650f144d-cb61-5915-859f-9b8301ba400b)
228 Don’t Include a Self Put-down When Giving a Compliment (#ufd65ef48-4447-59fd-b5bf-ac348b00059e)
229 Avoid Gossipers and Backbiting (#u4a944c09-719e-56dd-80f9-1529c4254aad)
230 Don’t Encourage Others to Tell You How You Feel (#u06e803f1-e6b8-561f-9a2b-b893b2f35931)
231 Say ‘No’ as Though You Mean it (#u13d4b309-a5af-5a14-b6d8-450b4820e554)
232 Remember, if You are Angry You could be Irrational (#ud4af7546-3968-533f-b6e0-e8fc30620c17)
233 Smile With Your Eyes (#uf44c6b5e-cf12-57f6-aa9e-a54c5146e7c2)
234 Maintain Your Dignity When Treated Rudely (#u68bc3d1e-6586-5455-98dc-fed7339dbaa5)
235 Script and Edit Your Requests (#uf7ec7997-e53f-59ff-96c8-34c15bbf74d2)
236 Expect Your Requests to be Met (#ud59fa845-7d56-5a8e-ab3d-e4e3959e6d25)
237 Make a Habit of Telling People Your Good News (#u226bbb6d-3315-54d3-8fc9-b347da1fa682)
238 Keep Reminders of Others’ Special Days (#ub2c4caab-724a-5220-bebd-46ac76361b0a)
239 Prepare for Your Anger Triggers (#u2fff8c6b-e660-563b-990f-910fa4f0191f)
240 Fake Confidence Until You Feel it (#u95856013-5f16-5dc4-9cf5-3a47fe1e4239)
241 Know When and When not to Use Advice-givers (#uc66f6d4f-f485-5773-ac4e-2da246b43458)
242 Be Honest when Declining Invitations (#u51d23f43-d12c-5c59-8ea4-1f70e2bc2b21)
243 Use Tricks to Remember Names (#uc9021f8a-4871-55ba-912e-6a04f777a7b2)
244 Practise Enjoying Praise (#u8b80b055-6b5f-577f-abd3-b74a234ce352)
245 Limit Your Low Self-esteem Friends (#uc770ea5e-7092-5358-a1a5-cd43759d6e5d)
246 Use Scintillating Small Talk to Protect Yourself (#ucdd8741b-7284-5985-a103-1abfed95a52f)
247 Beware of Boot-licking (#u5256b619-ec34-5f27-acc5-2f1304781df0)
248 Remember, the Company You Keep Affects Your Image (#uc9784915-3ca9-5912-ad47-b087b310996c)
249 Be Aware of Hidden Manipulative Bait (#u6f64b673-dca4-5aad-acc5-68c8c2c46c1a)
250 Play Safe with Self-disclosure (#u8e9797b2-7cb7-555d-bdad-95e90c1e9d62)
251 Avoid jokes (#ua6f7eb80-e563-5c65-a302-836eda36e3f8)
252 Search for Similarities in People you Find Daunting (#u88d19ba1-2a5f-5850-a7a0-4f9169ec434b)
253 Hallucinate with Humorous Friends (#u90cf1094-7842-5786-8c89-6369736704eb)
254 Know the Rules of Your Relationship (#u4c983f24-3b97-5f8f-bb27-c08b276b52ee)
255 Nourish Your Partnership (#ufcbda3c8-5dc6-563b-a045-641fad29bd00)
256 Don’t Let Love Excuse Put-downs (#uc7126626-519c-502e-9c05-46da525c5fee)
257 Don’t Expect Your Partner to Read Your Mind (#u86bc002e-3a01-5436-933b-5b126a706e53)
258 Accept that Great Sex Doesn’t Necessarily Flow from Great Love (#ua7333dac-9016-5e50-9616-e3fdbba1460a)
259 Be Prepared for a Break-up (#u537cefa7-258d-5992-8205-505c7ed8cb21)
260 Don’t Feel Obliged to Repay Every Kindness (#u8adbe9cb-1620-5b5e-bc9a-289c50e27495)
261 Don’t Party if You are not a Party Animal (#u85086ad3-c8dc-5735-9a84-1766608a0ffc)
262 Keep Well Away From Dating Agencies Until You are Strong (#ua403faaf-5ec1-55ad-b686-ff795a721d5b)
Part 4 – Work (#ud582f830-2ac0-5582-a7c3-600f6e60bf44)
263 Start Each Working Day with an Enjoyable Activity (#u266d1761-c225-5fd9-a167-65ea3b47350c)
264 Aim for at Least One Laugh a Day (#ube79f308-84cf-537b-96e8-3d23bede5852)
265 Ensure Your Work is Meeting Your Psychological Needs (#u5e69ab82-3b0e-571d-bd38-457aeda81acc)
266 Be Flexi-minded About Your Working Life (#u27d13039-d81a-5c42-bb97-cf9fbb5a6739)
267 Check Your Contribution is Making a Difference (#ufaf535c6-67aa-55c9-b721-f3e04918eca7)
268 Do 3 Quick-fix Relaxations Every Day (#u46b96247-4e28-5ab2-b9cf-c651788aa301)
269 Say ‘Yes’ to New Opportunities (#u7dc8ebf3-ab8b-5979-95ee-1f23e1c7691f)
270 Be Specific When Criticizing Others -or the Organization (#u2c001ef4-06a3-5a2b-ae8c-acf5e26ca008)
271 Acknowledge the Positive Before Tackling the Negative (#u4fc8bd55-e6d5-5aaa-9337-2dc77c100cec)
272 Be Happy to Work With People Who are Different to You (#u3d9fe5af-bfb9-5bb0-9968-430502b4e0bb)
273 Empathize if You Want to be Heard (#uc70ead72-fd9f-5c67-8d52-1eee82829de0)
274 Calm Yourself Before Giving Feedback (#u14db6c4c-4025-5a9d-af2c-a3fb652f336b)
275 Use Your Own Carrots to Motivate You (#uf49970dc-2940-53ef-9cd1-37352db75090)
276 Keep a Watchful Eye on Your Body When Criticizing Someone (#ufd59b247-16fa-5de2-b4ba-5c3cedfdb28e)
277 Place Your Fingertips Together for Composure (#ue7a7d4f7-1fdb-59f1-85ce-5adb5b24a6d1)
278 When Making a Point Keep to it (#uc7dfc55a-b8b9-57f7-beca-22c8dbab2141)
279 Avoid Using the Label ‘Difficult People’ (#ua2002870-9041-5e9d-bbac-9a65144636ec)
280 Champion a Common Cause (#u75798463-b47a-5353-b4c2-70d1005483be)
281 Wind Your Working Day Down Gradually (#u8fb66189-05d0-593b-a626-f10c9a10c84e)
282 Keep a Spiritual Presence Present (#u858c8f99-4d58-5167-af6f-685be8e4a163)
283 Make Your Journey Home as Calm as it can be (#u140a9e79-129f-5f8d-a42d-ed08f93d1c0a)
284 Remember Your Body Speaks Louder than Your Voice (#u257f5dbf-c5db-5a5c-a2d6-961ecba2b6b9)
285 Watch Your Adrenalin Levels (#ue268dca5-d654-54f4-8d62-2f234399c0f4)
286 Think of Pressure as Positive (#u5a5e4d1a-cd9d-5806-98a4-1f864956d3d2)
287 Get Inspired Before Cracking the Hardest Nuts (#u9c20efcf-1116-55dc-acfd-cf5c0e65d1ba)
288 Insist on Quality Time for Difficult Decisions (#udbb17f2f-d723-5bc4-bf3f-7be3336025b8)
289 Set Specific Dates (#ucc96c3ef-259e-5b2a-9cb1-f9db5916b92e)
290 Nurture Yourself with Nature (#u5051ecbc-a25c-5d9d-8c72-c45eb5a2e721)
291 Keep Reminding Yourself of Your Strengths (#u1ced252a-fbb5-5f1b-af04-41adadacc3a0)
292 Aim to Use The Strengths that You Enjoy Most (#ud50cb90f-6ab8-5a22-89c2-b6daa76dbd41)
293 Be Your Own ‘Head of Training’ (#ud0977be5-06e8-5ad2-88bc-d6bf6f194215)
294 Supplement Your Training (#uf8497a04-2883-5418-ba17-c19f92e24185)
295 Ask for Feedback (#uc0740796-6871-54ee-9383-a61323a2d447)
296 Write a Reference for Yourself (#ucf6dcdd1-c8af-5acb-b29e-4d83c4a37dff)
297 Relax Before Going into a Meeting (#u9dcd6bb9-20e9-54c0-ae10-5462688a5288)
298 Don’t Give Up Finding Your Dream Job (#u7fca7512-84f6-5578-91b9-be63ca669903)
299 Ensure Your Environment is Helping You to Give Your Best (#u04df0003-9224-538b-8d01-562d375164f3)
300 Think GEE to Check Your Rationality (#u0f5d46b1-5c0c-5e1f-97eb-57c22f3fcb74)
301 Use Quotes to Top Up Your Optimism (#u80d6febe-0beb-53e5-adea-9e6496c04f9f)
302 Broadcast Your Deadlines for Decisions (#u1aee7de6-b0d7-5fd8-8c13-8882c94950d1)
303 Maintain an Upright Posture (#u31b65474-6a0e-5a07-a791-55d95cd918f6)
304 Beware of Work Snacks and ‘Treats’ (#ue94d244a-dcdd-5174-9f4d-4323d42192a9)
305 Do Early Morning Relaxations on Difficult Days (#u6d4af00c-bf4e-5307-8843-54efcf60cfcc)
306 Carry a Stress Ball in Your Coat Pocket (#u27d6c4f8-5eeb-5c88-9919-0dacc9f8f500)
307 Prioritize, Prioritize and Prioritize (#u36a4c504-05e7-58ff-abce-8c27ec97913d)
308 Network Even When You Don’t Appear to Need to (#u12911237-5224-5cf8-bc7c-bbd967eaebb3)
309 Use Secret Stretches to Stay Relaxed (#u63da1bf6-ab51-5432-9c2b-bcf7e9d13b87)
310 Don’t Highlight Your Near-misses (#udf74594e-b99b-5441-8c38-bffff9ca1b1d)
311 Keep Your Pleas for Prayer Time (#ufe020a99-456e-58b9-9d8e-a15809aaaeb2)
312 Never ‘Watch Your Pots Boil’ (#ub581281a-f26d-567a-af6a-a3867e2f8c92)
313 Help Others Up Their Career Ladder (#uef7d0874-0b1f-5672-99c5-16f95ba5c250)
314 Personalize Your Business Card (#u56a79662-cd4f-5205-a5ac-490cc06bebc8)
315 Get There Early (#u609a80ca-ac40-520a-ba24-a45c517d95ce)
316 Be Your Own Role-model (#uf450feb1-229b-5089-967e-8e2417beb46b)
317 Update Your CV Regularly (#u9e6469e6-be0f-5399-b52f-7632692803c9)
318 Compliment Your Colleagues Without Expectation of Return (#u94ecbc08-080e-5563-854d-1e4bd35c76d9)
319 When Wearing an ‘Eye-catcher’, be Prepared to Talk (#u34219bde-939c-5242-8908-aab0d1e97898)
320 Don’t Become Your Colleagues’ Clown (#ue51c5ebd-f40e-5efe-b330-bb445d844a5f)
321 Be a Copycat (#u9a53eb7d-90d5-5b49-8219-8f2126f0f8d4)
322 Spread Your Toes and Feel Your Heels (#u53c799be-1cf3-58ac-a655-793af906fce4)
323 Let Time-wasters Waste Themselves (#uff4100cd-07f0-5e98-b955-d9c40a788832)
324 Say ‘Sorry’ Once and Once Only (#u971af374-325c-5fcd-aa85-91034a5a979e)
325 Share Your Successes Cautiously (#u7e61ce1b-0062-5553-9b60-b758b0168f1f)
326 Insist on Quality Time for Quality Projects (#u41f8164c-8f35-5166-bbd3-ae62476ce9d1)
327 Keep an Eye-mask and Earplugs in Your Desk or Briefcase (#u2e6fb8f9-df1e-5e62-b516-380770484521)
328 Choose Companies that Share Your Values (#u146e48be-db4e-5037-8f3a-2f4d9d4b93db)
329 Beware of Taking Decisions too Personally (#u6fcca3e1-4824-50f8-9d7f-319ad69233fd)
330 Don’t Push Yourself Beyond Your Attention Span (#u9982352d-ecec-504d-8cef-27911ced1825)
331 Carry a Mascot (#u399590f1-97b7-5931-9667-bba4982e1e47)
332 Count the Cost to Your Self-esteem Before Giving in (#u7d85fe97-2354-5a63-b10d-822a92d3c71e)
333 Share Your Non-work Achievements (#u16214da2-1350-5550-ac73-18df52d15721)
334 Use Reminder Cards Unashamedly (#ud191ddb5-1392-53f6-9212-1942e1274097)
335 Remember it Makes Sense to Enjoy Work (#ub73d0f95-7ae3-50dd-bdf4-5a2b4dc78206)
336 Deal with the Subversive Enemies of Concentration (#u507c1818-637e-5545-9ad2-d0cc5c14e188)
337 Resist Becoming the Office Martyr (#u928e6b6a-3ab6-5cc3-9ef4-081e571cc27b)
338 Stand Up to Bullies, but not Alone (#uba676992-9151-5da6-8514-9f9d9b2f1a8e)
339 Be Prepared to Step Outside Your Job Description (#u9828217f-690d-5f03-84ce-48968895410d)
340 Stand Up When Making or Taking Difficult Phone Calls (#u861d375c-0103-5f98-b303-09e3a07cd404)
341 Don’t Make Excuses for Wanting to get a Life (#u3f41a757-6dc8-5050-846a-f80a8ce4dab2)
342 Make Sure Your Chosen Image has Repetitive Impact (#u34f5705f-667f-5c6d-b711-5f4fd9c95e66)
343 Keep a Work Notebook at Home (#u61f20b70-7b57-56fb-9351-9b14e5e96476)
344 Think Positively about Conflict (#ud898f8e4-fdb8-54aa-a04e-d1809ecaa011)
345 Never Think You are Too Old to Change (#ua283f604-7f0d-5d94-8a3f-455d2789208f)
346 Deepen Your Voice (#uac3ca04d-f516-521a-8fa5-a4fd8aa71762)
347 Have a Fun Lunch-break Once a Week (#ud80f6e8a-b910-50ea-8d8f-d6c7e4ba5203)
348 Expect Less Support at Times of High Pressure (#ue462d7ef-61f7-5330-9149-3d8f6ef0ecaa)
349 See Failure as a Step on The Road to Success (#ucab8e108-750b-5100-8102-eaaab477cb46)
350 Welcome Frustration with Yourself (#uc20d8725-6b4a-5821-bcfc-4a05c8282d0b)
351 Clear Your Surrounding Clutter (#udc201312-281d-558e-b8a4-be496318e78d)
352 Don’t Put Up With Injustices in Silence (#ua60e0788-b83b-557f-947c-b6299af6b771)
353 Be ‘Cheeky’ and Seek Out High-quality Mentors (#ub41a265b-80f6-5007-9233-335ea85f1c95)
354 Prepare to Protect Your Privacy (#u49facd7e-6fe2-5be8-9e76-d88cdf47e7d4)
355 Beat Worrying about Your Future with Contingency Planning (#uaa3d0f47-7940-5ea2-aeee-48a8a0862dce)
356 Don’t be a Slave to the Telephone (#u350a5418-8c5d-575f-854f-463561b9ca5b)
357 Stand up for Your Breaks (#uda64dbac-5a04-5cad-957c-ae270260268d)
358 Take Your Honours Gracefully (#uc3c1730a-8c1b-5ec9-ba62-b945a6f4abaf)
359 Don’t Give Up Even if You Intend to Move on (#ubc0bb1da-093b-5721-959a-73029da36457)
360 Don’t be too Proud to Delegate (#uf95443ca-99e7-5c07-bec5-e798d7707470)
361 Check Your Time Management (#uf06fe8f8-5878-5dee-a20c-b00ebcc00703)
362 Take a Leaf Out of Nelson Mandela’s Book (#u1aea1c39-204c-5b78-8cd1-6d8b9faa4996)
363 Stay Ever-ready for Job Interviews (#ue26dfb30-cee7-5ef7-ac86-1df3dedf90b1)
364 Just Do It! (#u7155f9c2-2825-503f-a423-0f619829b4da)
365 Keep the Self-Esteem Bible and its Good Companions Handy (#u1f70dcd3-10df-529a-85ba-7ae6c01678b0)
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